become a possibilitarian

Happy Wednesday 📰

I've mentioned that someone in my family has been trolling my job search lately and she ramped it up yesterday via text with what I call a "but apology". You know what I'm talking about, "I'm sorry, but...". They start to apologize then add "but" and proceed to state their opinion as to why they really shouldn't apologize because they're right. It's not an apology at all and everyone knows it.

I've been told by several people that I should just block this particular family member, not only on Facebook but in my phone as well. Truth be told, I'd have every right to do that but at this point, I'm just trying to ignore her.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not ok with what she's doing, and despite my trying to let them roll off my back, her words do hurt. My instinct is to defend myself and list everything I've done to try to find a job: outline every job I've applied for, give her my list of every recruiter who's ghosted me, remind her of all the cat sitting jobs I've had, but I don't because it wouldn't make any difference. This person hasn't worked in over 50 years and she is absolutely clueless about today's job market. Giving her facts won't change her mind that I should just "go in person and apply anywhere" (that's her latest *advice*).

Job seekers, if you're dealing with someone like this, I am sorry. It's hard enough navigating these crazy times, having someone so judgemental in your life is almost unbearable, I know from experience. Believe me.

So I'm trying to keep on keeping on: spending hours looking for a job (both freelance and full-time, I've even added part-time in my search), applying to ones I'm fully qualified for, talking to recruiters and hiring managers, and then...waiting.

I'm keeping my eyes open for the possibilities because I believe they're there, they just may be hiding.

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